Denying Hurts: the Forgiveness & Essential Oil Connection – Part 1
- Uncovering your anger and coping mechanisms (denying hurts)
- Deciding to forgive
- Working on forgiveness
- Discovery and release from emotional prison 1
When a person buries strong emotions such as anger or shame, destructive coping mechanisms can develop:
- Desire for Control/Criticism – controlling and/or criticizing others to avoid facing your own emotions.
- Low Self Esteem, Self-Doubt – feeling unloved or rejected as children and adults can lead to difficulty making any decisions.
- “Bursts” of Emotion – exaggerated responses to everyday occurrences. 2
- Addictions – (Eating, Shopping, Alcohol, Drugs, People, Pleasing People) numbing the emotions. 3
If you identify with any of the above “coping mechanisms”, you can ask yourself the following questions that Dr. Enright, the author of Forgiveness is a Choice suggests:
- “Has injury caused permanent change in your life or changed your worldview?
- Are you afraid to expose shame or guilt?
- Have you been obsessed about the offender?
- Has anger effected your health?4
These questions may have stirred up buried soot into your consciousness (as they did for me). The very means of trying to escape our hurts actually keeps us captive. The good news is that God has created a healing balm through the power of His Word and essential oils He has created. Frankincense and Myrrh, the precious gifts that were given to The Savior Jesus, Prince of Peace, are also a resource for us. Research has shown that Frankincense can help relieve depression.5 Both Frankincense6 and myrrh may also help reduce anxiety related to harboring resentments.7
You may already be aware of people that you need to forgive, but just can’t go there. In the next blog, I will cover the topics on WHY SHOULD I FORGIVE? There are several good reasons. God desires to reveal truth in the inmost parts so that He can impart His comfort and wisdom – to step out of the dirty closet and into the FRESH LAND OF FREEDOM.
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1Enright, Robert D. Forgiveness is a Choice: A Step-by-Step Process for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 2001. 78. Print.
2Colbert, Don. Deadly Emotions: Understand the Mind-Body-Spirit Connection That Can Heal or Destroy You. Nashville: Thomas Nelson, 2003. 54-56 Print.
3Linn, Dennis, Sheila Linn, and Matthew Linn. Don’t Forgive Too Soon: Extending the Two Hands That Heal. New York: Paulist Press, 1997. 36-37 Print.
4 Enright, 2001. 78 Print.
5Ye-qui, Zhang, et al. “Anti-depression effect of frankincense essential oil.” Natural Product Research and Development 27.1 (2015): 31-34.
6Adake, Prabhakar, Mahalaxmi S. Petimani, M. Jayaraj, and S. N. Rao. “Preclinical evaluation of Boswellia serrata for anxiolytic activity.” International Journal of Basic & Clinical Pharmacology 4.3 (2015), 551-555. Print. doi:10.18203/2319-2003.ijbcp20150038
7Price, Len. Aromatherapy for Health Professionals. Comp. Shirley Price. London: Elsevier, 2012. 230. Print and CD Rom.
Click on the blog titles below to continue reading in this series of “Forgiveness & the Essential Oils Connection”: See our Forgiveness & Essential Oil blog subcategory for more on how Jesus, The Author of Creation has designed essential oils to help facilitate the forgiveness process.
Click on the blog titles below to continue reading in this series of “Forgiveness & the Essential Oils Connection”:
See our Forgiveness & Essential Oil blog subcategory for more on how Jesus, The Author of Creation has designed essential oils to help facilitate the forgiveness process.